Why would you need to get a dating/relationship coach?
Dating is meant to be a fun thing to do! Yet often it is full of ghosting, unavailable singles, rejection, not meeting the right people and anxiety!
People tell you it must be so much fun to be single and that you should be positive and enjoy the experience. But they don’t understand how hard that is to do when it just feels disappointing! It’s tough not to lose hope and that’s exactly why you need a Dating/Relationship Coach!
You might think that only people who ‘suck’ at dating get help. But that just isn’t true because everyone can benefit from seeing a dating/relationship coach.
Ten Common Signs You Need a Dating Coach
A Dating/Relationship Coach is just like a personal trainer. You might be able to get results by yourself, but you often don’t! The personal trainer will push you out of your comfort zone, keep you focussed and get the results you want. A Dating/Relationship coach will do exactly the same thing for your love life.
There can be unique challenges for each person, yet when it comes to dating and relationships people can experience similar challenges. There is anxiety, being able to choose the right person, worrying about rejection, thinking that you won’t meet someone, worry about how you look, being scared of being hurt again, having the skills to be successful., etc. Let’s look at some of the common reasons you might need a Dating/Relationship Coach.
Here are 10 Signs that You need a Dating/Relationship Coach
1. You are Successful in other areas of Life
You could be successful in other areas of your life but find yourself unable to get the same success meeting someone you like or building a loving relationship. This can be particularly true for successful women. who feel that men just aren’t attracted to them. It is a huge myth that men aren’t attracted to smart, successful women. Men actually find the confidence these women have highly attractive. They show they are self-reliant, self-contained and have it all together. A woman who has these qualities is easy to make happy and this is attractive.
However, smart successful women often have difficulty finding the relationship that fits them because what makes them successful in their professional lives has the opposite effect when dating and in relationships. ! I regularly work with smart successful women to get them the results in their love lives.
2. No time
If you are working long hours at your job, have family commitments and just can’t fit in anything else dating won’t be a priority. You might feel lonely but have no energy left to do anything about it. It will definitely feel like a 2nd job that you literally don’t have any time for. A dating coach will be able to help you work out how you can balance work, home, friends and still have time for love and romance.
3. You are not Clear about What you Want
You might be focussed and have a good idea of what you want in life when it comes to your job and other goals. Yet when it comes to the area of dating, love and relationships many people leave it to chance and feel it should magically happen when they least expect it. Then they are disappointed when it doesn’t happen.
It is important to know what you want and what you are looking for in a relationship to have a good chance of getting it.
Do you know what you are looking for? Are you looking for a causal relationship or the love of your life? Do you want children or do you plan on a life of adventure/travel? Do you want to be married or do you want a less traditional relationship?
What personality/character traits do you need in a partner to have a relationship that feels good for you?
If you are having trouble being clear, it is like going into a restaurant and saying you don’t know what you want! You will either walk away with nothing or something you don’t want!
A Dating Coach will help you understand what is important to you and this will enable you to attract and choose the people who will able to give you what you want. They will also help you know whether you should continue to date someone or not.
4. Your Online Profile and Approach Isn’t Working
You can meet quality singles anywhere and everywhere. However, if you want to know where you can find more singles than anywhere else it is online dating. In Australia, one-third of all serious relationships start online.
If you want to be successful online you need a profile that gets you results. The number one reason so many singles fail to attract the right people is there profile sucks! Success online starts with your profile and a dating coach will help you get this right by creating an engaging profile that attracts the opposite sex. It can be difficult to know your own strengths and particularly those that attract the person you want. A dating coach knows exactly how to do this and will create the profile that the opposite sex will respond to.
Many single people struggle to get the results online because of the approach they take. You need to send messages that will get you dates with the singles you actually want to meet. A dating coach will teach you how to get results online.
5. Shy and Awkward
If you are shy, don’t know how to talk to the opposite sex and come across awkward then a dating coach will help you. They will help you to:
- Have a conversation
- Make small talk
- Calm your nerves on a date
- Know what type of dates work.
- Teach you have to make a good impression and have self-confidence.
- Build a connection.
Through personalised training, a dating coach will help you identify the things that aren’t working for you and your weakness so you get past them and get results. When you are shy, general advice like be more confident doesn’t help. A dating coach will work with you to build your confidence and relationship skills.
6. Help you Understand the Opposite Sex
Men and women think and act differently and this makes dating confusing! A Dating Coach will help you understand just how the opposite sex works and that is a game-changer. They will help you understand why a guy who was so into you ghosts you or why women reject you without giving you a chance. A dating coach can’t change the way men or women think but they can help you understand the differences.
Your self-esteem has a huge impact on how others see you. If you are worried that you aren’t good looking enough or simply feel bad about yourself and are always looking for approval it will be a HUGE turnoff for other singles.
Low self-esteem affects your dating life by:
- Making you feel like you aren’t good looking enough
- No-one would want to be with you!
- It makes you awkward when talking to people you like.
- You don’t try, because what’s the point you will only fail anyway!
- You date people who don’t see you as worthwhile because that’s how you see yourself.
A dating coach will work with you to build your confidence and belief in yourself. They will help you grow as a person and as a result you will become more attractive to the opposite sex.
When it comes to dating and relationships fear is one of the biggest things that stops singles finding the love that they want.
You could suffer from:
- Fear of commitment
- Fear of rejection
- Intimacy issues
- Inability to give relationships the time and attention they need
- Choosing the wrong people
- Trust issues
If you continually chose the wrong person, have been hurt, or scared of rejection a dating coach can help identify why and enable you to work through your fear and the blockages that stop you getting the relationship you really want.
9. You Met Someone and Want it to Work
When you do meet someone you like you need the skills to create a strong and healthy relationship. If you have been hurt in the past a new relationship may bring out old problems and toxic ways of dealing with them. It is easy to take things the wrong way or get caught up in past patterns of behaviour that don’t work.
A Dating/Relationship Coach will work with you to build a healthy relationship where you can keep the romance alive. The problems that end a relationship are usually there at the beginning and having someone who can help you work through them will give your relationship the best chance of success. Did you know that research suggests that most couples wait around six years to get help and this is generally way too late by then? You can save yourself a lot of pain by dealing with them at the beginning.
A dating coach can help you feel secure about your relationship skills in the short-term and long-term stages.
10. Unable to Move on from a Previous Relationship
You may be experiencing difficulty getting over an ex or be trapped in an on-again, off-again relationship. A Dating Coach can help you heal, move on and be clear about what is important to you.
Conclusion on Why you Need a Dating Coach
Dating is all letting someone get to know who you are. If you have trouble presenting your best self in the dating world, a dating coach will work will you to make your best impression.
I have covered 10 reasons people use a dating/relationship coach, yet there are many more like how to get your ex back, never having a serious relationship, etc.
I say that a dating coach is a lot like going to a personal trainer! For it to work it depends on YOU. Just like exercise you have to do the work to get the results!
You will need to take the right action and do the inner work. It’s not just about learning the right thing to say or getting a makeover. You have to be open to making positive changes to see the results you want in your dating life and relationships. It may feel uncomfortable at times, but the results are worth the effort.
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Debbie Rivers is a leading dating relationship expert with a decade of industry experience. The experience includes hosting dating events, coaching and matchmaking and is the founder of Dare2Date. She is an internationally certified coach and accredited matchmaker through the Matchmaking Institute of New York.